Let's talk about fake friends
- Rhye Speaks
- Apr 22, 2017
- 3 min read
Dear rhRh
Dear Rhye,
Hey girl I'm from Torrance ca. I'm a sophomore in high school and have a lot of friends. My best friend and I do everything together. But lately I've been feeling like an outsider. It's like everybody knows something I don't. Every time I walk over and try to join the conversation they get awkwardly quiet and just look at me. One day I walk over to them and they ask me about a secret that I had. A secret that ONLY my best friend knows. I don't want to lose her as a friend because we've been friends for so long but how could she? I felt so betrayed and I feel alone. Because at this point I have nobody I can genuinely talk to and my friend group is slowly getting smaller and smaller. I'm chill I don't do anything to anybody. But it seems as if my best friend is trying to start stuff for no reason. Like over a boy she knew for 2 weeks. I said hi to him and she freaked out. At this point I don't even know what to do. Thanks
To say high school is complicated and annoying at times is a huge understatement. High school is full of drama and fake friends. And at first it can be hard to tell who is who. The entire 3 years I've been in high school I can count on one hand how many true friends I have and that's normal. If you feel like your name is being passed around. I would go with 2 options.
1. Go directly to the girls and ask them about it. Don't be angry, start a scene just ask in private or in a calm way. And please don’t go telling other people your business because people especially girls are messy and your story can go from "I love dogs" to "rhye said she hates Amy's dog and wants to hurt it “in a blink of an eye. That’s how rumors get started most of the time and people you don't even know are all of a sudden in your business s and people blow it out of proportion. You may be chill and don't do anything but not everybody in high school is. Some people look for drama and reasons to start it. You just have to rise above it and realize that everybody doesn't have the best intentions for you and you’re not going to be friends with everybody because everybody is different. And when it comes to the negativity that comes with drama and fake friends. Just ignore it. Most of all DO NOT LET IT EFFECT HOW YOU DO IN SCHOOL. Your success is more important than some little drama with people you honestly probably won't even see after this. I didn't hear this from anybody and ended up in so much drama and my grades suffered and when I look back on it, I wish I just stayed focused because now I'm working in overdrive trying because it's not fun. The more you focus and grind the higher you will rise and when you look back down, those same people are still on the ground worried about everything else but themselves.
2. Just cut them off and stop being friends with them period
Yes, I understand removing yourself from your friend group altogether can be tough, but sometimes you just have to be alone and take some time to focus and evaluate yourself. It helps you better yourself and, it also helps clear your space of any negative energy that was blocking you from doing something.
The moral of this whole story is, sometimes you just have to rock by yourself. Anyways girl I hope this helped you and if you need anything else my email is open 24/7
XOXO,
Rhye
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